Hopes for my Homeboy – Wishes for My Son

My wishes for my son are many.  In fact….

My wish for you is that this life becomes all that you want it to. Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small, you never need to carry more than you can hold. And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you – and wants the same things to. Yeah this, is my wish.  

~ Rascall Flatts

I miss country music in Dubai, and I miss my little sister serenading me endlessly with this song on long road trips.  Get back in my life you poetic genius!

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Isn’t she the cutest? My sweet serenading sister 🙂

I’m fairly certain that if I put another 30 seconds of thought into it, I could find a more poignant song about what I hope for my sweet son… but this one…. All the feels. And in a lot of ways it speaks to some basic premises. Ever since I found out that we were expecting, I began expecting great things of and for my tiny two-celled tot. This is a short list that I think encompasses a number of other things….So here we go.

Wishes for my Son

My hope for you, little boy, is that you:

  1. Become a saint
  2. Always learn and grow
  3. Don’t play small
  4. Remain generous and kind, but strong. Use your manly strength wisely
  5. Are always grateful

But hopes, dreams and wishes for my son are not enough.

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As parents, we have a huge role to play in helping him to achieve and become these things by the example we set and the exposure he gets.  So, for the next 5 weeks – I’m going to lay out a basic game plan (that I’m sure will morph and reset over the years) which we are using as a roadmap to help him get there. One day he will have dreams, wishes and goals of his own (read about another way we foster those here)– hopefully these will factor in. But as far as character goes, I think if we can help him move toward these, he will be in good shape.

Stud Muff and I have a “big picture” date every Saturday morning where we grab breakfast, sit in a café for ~3 hours and talk about important things in life (child rearing, faith, relationships we want to develop, us, career, other goals….etc) – these are some of the things we strategize about… hopefully some of our musings will be helpful to you in raising Cutting Edge Kids! Check back next Wednesday to read about strategies we’re using to raise holy kids.

Feel free to keep singing that song in your head, and out loud, alllll day.  You know I will 🙂  Solidarity.

25 thoughts on “Hopes for my Homeboy – Wishes for My Son”

  1. What a great post! There is much wisdom in realizing that good kids growing into great adults generally doesn’t “just happen”. One thing we did when our older boys were little (they are currently ages 15 and 13) was we really paid attention to the character traits of young men in their 20s, taking note of the activities and habits they had formed. This helped us form a “road map”. For instance, we noted that excessive video game playing has a tendency to stunt the emotional growth of young men, so we purposed not to allow video games in our home (or if we did, that time would be restricted). I think it’s great that you are thinking about these things while your son is small.

    1. Wow – good for you Cheryl! That’s so great to hear – I imagine ripping video games away from young men was no easy task! Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

  2. “As parents, we have a huge role to play in helping him to achieve and become these things by the example we set and the exposure he gets” – I believe these are the most important things what one can do! What I also see very important nowadays is stay close to each other. There are so many kids wondering around totally unattached from their roots.
    Lovely post! 🙂 I hope all your wishes will come true!

    1. Thanks so much Jolina (I love your name!!) – I have it *partially* worked out… at least in my mind haha! let’s see!

  3. This was so beautiful! Those are things we want for our kids and you wrote them down – now they feel more concrete. Kids are still individuals and when they grow up they can so easily go to the completely opposite direction. Yet we need to support them in their own choices.

    1. Thanks Tiina – I think that’s my favourite part of blogging- putting things down in writing so that I have to really think them through, and can look back them them!

    1. Thanks Janella – wonderful to know that they touched you 🙂 We definitely do always want what is best for them!

    1. Thank you Lubka – I hope so too – I hope that he is healthy and happy and holy above all – how he gets there is all up to him 🙂

  4. I like the idea of sitting and talking with your partner when it comes to child-rearing. Hun and I often do something similar, but it’s through our general discussions and every day living that we talk and revisit and refine some of our ideas, goals, and plans for getting our littles to a place of upstanding men. A nice 3 hour coffee date, or any date really, would be awesome though! 🙂

    1. hahah Thanks Kendall! For us – we’ve found that being intentional about these discussion is the only way to really move anything forward with our crazy pace of life. Those dates are the best 🙂 A lazy 3 hours of goal setting…. literally what my dreams are made of.

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