I am the mother of a 2-year old. They told me 2 would be tough – the terrible-twos – right? I would like to rename them the terrific-twos. I’d like to, but I can’t just yet. Because, WHINING. But even this is manageable. Get excited – I’m going to let you in on a little secret – how to stop a toddler from whining.
“I don’t want to wear pantssssssssssss maaaamaaaaaay” (English accent on the mommy…who knows.)
“There’s a grain of rice of my chinnnnn……..”
“I can’t find my nooooooooose”
My lovely little can turn seemingly innocent, pleasant words into the most hair-pulling of sounds. Other than that, so far, I’m LOVING the 2’s. He is the best he has ever been! Sweet, polite, intellectually absorbent, kind, hilarious, generous, and so preciously affectionate. Bring it on baby!
But.the.whining. We can do without.
How to Stop a Toddler from Whining
So I whipped out a little strategy I like to call “The Whining Seat”
It has seen an almost 100% success rate over the last month. You may want to take notes. Here goes:
Child decides that ____ is a national catastrophe.
Child proceeds to whine.
Whining reaches the ears of a sensible person (me).
I detail reality for him in toddler-friendly language.
Sensible individual calmly says “son, do you need to sit in the whining seat?” (this “seat” changes based on where we are in the moment – but is generally high off the ground so that he can’t escape without help…. Think countertop, high chair, table, dresser….etc)
Son is placed on said Whining Seat.
As he is placed on the proverbial WS I explain that he can whine if he wants to, but he has to stay there until he is done. As soon as he is quiet and talking normally (or can flash a smile) he is free to go.
Honestly, I don’t know why this works. But it does.
In a way, it’s a little mockery…. I stand in front of him while he does his time and gesture to “carry on…keep going….let it all out”… usually he finds that funny and bursts out laughing to end the whine. Then I clarify, “are you all done whining sweetie?”, and I get a “All done mammayyyy” (the English accent is real.). Freedom ensues.
From then on, for a reasonable amount of time, the simple threat of a return to his lofty perch is enough to quell the beginnings of a whine.
Again, don’t understand the psychology, but it works and keeps us sane 🙂 Terrific-two’s for the win!
Can ya’ll give it a shot and tell me what you find? I’m over the moon. Wishing you every success, and the most peaceful of homes!